my wife .... doesn't like wood stoves
If you expect her to ever feed a boiler, good luck <G>
My wife (now 72) told me when she hit 60 YO she was too old to feed a fire, so put in a GSHP (all DIY).
So, how DIY adept are you ? An old oil tank, a cutting torch, some scrounged sch 40 pipe and other pits plus a CL or ebay pump, plus a welder and a few tools any self respecting DIY hs on hand -- under $100 you can have your boiler up and running in a few weekends.
Make sure your wife is involved and have her thread the pipe <G>
Of course, once you DIY your boiler, you will likely have learned enough thermodynamics building the fire tube heat exchanger to get interested in learning vapor cycle heat pump technology, decide to buy an old backhoe, and build yourself a DIY GSHP for under $500 too, eh ?