I never said I had any intention to sue my neighbor. She is not a "poor old lady". Please. She's not even retired. I am sympathetic that she is single and money conscious. We had a nice talk this evening, and I told her I canceled the work that was to be done in the a.m due to our differences of opinion on this. She's going to call the arborist to discuss more, and I am going to call some more reputable tree companies to get estimates. I told her that she needs to be the one to officially hire the people because I don't feel right arranging work on her tree. She understood my point of view on that.
I can't understand why any of you are saying that she doesn't have an obligation to perform work on her own tree when it is necessary to render the tree safe. Let me exaggerate the same situation to make a point. Let's say the tree was totally dead and rotten. Would you still say the "poor old lady shouldn't pay a dime"? I wish I had known that my neighbors should have to pay for my trees before I spent thousands on them recently! So, if someone is concerned about their neighbor’s tree, that makes them responsible for paying for it even when an expert says the concern is a legit? I'm sorry, but there is zero logic in that. Aren't people supposed to maintain their own trees and keep them form being an unreasonable risk to their neighbor's homes? When your tree needs work, do you ask your neighbor to pay because it threatens his house and happens to be leaning away from yours? I don't think so.
If her tree hit my house, she may be liable if she doesn't do as the arborist has suggested. It's may or may not be an act of God if it is shown that the tree had a defect that she did not act address when she could have/should have. I don't feel I should have to pay anything, but I have offered to pay half to be a good neighbor. And by the way, the people I called are cheap because I was trying to save HER money, not myself. It is for that same reason that I have dropped the whole issue of thinning the tree. If I got someone expensive, that adds to your "poor old lady" theory. If I get someone cheap, it's a hack job. Can't win.
You are correct that the branch would not hit my house. I would actually be happy if it fell off. My concern is that the branch is somehow making the whole tree unstable. That was what I understood from the arborist. My ONLY concern is the safety of my kids. Even if I knew the tree was certain to fall on my house, I would not care if I also knew that we would be out when it fell and unharmed. I'd probably take the opportunity to renovate and add an upstairs bath ---if I was still alive.
I have lived here 10 years, and she's been here even longer. The limb has grown a lot, and I think the tree leans more than it used to, which is why I am being "pushy" now. It pains me to hear you use that word, because I have been almost timid in my dealings with her on this. I may sound that way on this site, but I want to preserve my relationship with my neighbor as much as I want to resolve the tree issue. By posting here, I was hoping people would say just to leave it alone so that I could just drop the matter.
Yes, I could pay $10,000 to fix up her tree with cables etc. because my kid's safety is everything. I could also spend that money on an alarm system, side airbags, and other safety gear. I suppose I am on a limited income too, and I have to weigh the risks vs. the expense, which is what I am trying to do here. I could pay for it all, but I would deeply resent it. I have put many thousands in to trees that just dropped dead on my property recently (3 huge ones). No neighbors paid for that. I can't start being the person the neighbors come to when their trees need work.
All your cabling ideas sound great, but I can't see it happening due to the cost. Also, does that reduce the risk of the whole tree falling, or just one section of the V breaking away? If the one section of the V broke off, I think we would live to tell about it. If the whole thing fell, we would be pancakes. It all boils down to one big question --- do ya guys think this tree is going to fall on my house in the next 10 years or not? Thanks for all your replies.
I can't understand why any of you are saying that she doesn't have an obligation to perform work on her own tree when it is necessary to render the tree safe. Let me exaggerate the same situation to make a point. Let's say the tree was totally dead and rotten. Would you still say the "poor old lady shouldn't pay a dime"? I wish I had known that my neighbors should have to pay for my trees before I spent thousands on them recently! So, if someone is concerned about their neighbor’s tree, that makes them responsible for paying for it even when an expert says the concern is a legit? I'm sorry, but there is zero logic in that. Aren't people supposed to maintain their own trees and keep them form being an unreasonable risk to their neighbor's homes? When your tree needs work, do you ask your neighbor to pay because it threatens his house and happens to be leaning away from yours? I don't think so.
If her tree hit my house, she may be liable if she doesn't do as the arborist has suggested. It's may or may not be an act of God if it is shown that the tree had a defect that she did not act address when she could have/should have. I don't feel I should have to pay anything, but I have offered to pay half to be a good neighbor. And by the way, the people I called are cheap because I was trying to save HER money, not myself. It is for that same reason that I have dropped the whole issue of thinning the tree. If I got someone expensive, that adds to your "poor old lady" theory. If I get someone cheap, it's a hack job. Can't win.
You are correct that the branch would not hit my house. I would actually be happy if it fell off. My concern is that the branch is somehow making the whole tree unstable. That was what I understood from the arborist. My ONLY concern is the safety of my kids. Even if I knew the tree was certain to fall on my house, I would not care if I also knew that we would be out when it fell and unharmed. I'd probably take the opportunity to renovate and add an upstairs bath ---if I was still alive.
I have lived here 10 years, and she's been here even longer. The limb has grown a lot, and I think the tree leans more than it used to, which is why I am being "pushy" now. It pains me to hear you use that word, because I have been almost timid in my dealings with her on this. I may sound that way on this site, but I want to preserve my relationship with my neighbor as much as I want to resolve the tree issue. By posting here, I was hoping people would say just to leave it alone so that I could just drop the matter.
Yes, I could pay $10,000 to fix up her tree with cables etc. because my kid's safety is everything. I could also spend that money on an alarm system, side airbags, and other safety gear. I suppose I am on a limited income too, and I have to weigh the risks vs. the expense, which is what I am trying to do here. I could pay for it all, but I would deeply resent it. I have put many thousands in to trees that just dropped dead on my property recently (3 huge ones). No neighbors paid for that. I can't start being the person the neighbors come to when their trees need work.
All your cabling ideas sound great, but I can't see it happening due to the cost. Also, does that reduce the risk of the whole tree falling, or just one section of the V breaking away? If the one section of the V broke off, I think we would live to tell about it. If the whole thing fell, we would be pancakes. It all boils down to one big question --- do ya guys think this tree is going to fall on my house in the next 10 years or not? Thanks for all your replies.
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