An old friends Son killed himself

[bobbyb13]

I'm having a hard time with this. So, I'll unload to you guys, and God. Mike is an old friend I went to High School with, played baseball, football, and softball as we aged. We raced each other, drank together, You get the picture. His only Son Chad, for whatever reason took his life last night. He was 35 years old. My wife and I went over tonight, darn near killed me. I just can't even start to imagine what he's going thru. Prayers appreciated.
Bob

 

[SinglerM]

Sorry about your friends' loss.

And yours as well.
I'll include him in my prayers.

I'm very sorry to hear about that.

Mitch

 

[cuttinscott]

My Prayers are with you and your friend GodBless

Scott

 

[LarryTheCableGuy]

You and your friends have my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless.

.

 

[Urbicide]

Bobby, I am truly sorry to hear of the tragedy that you and your good friends are going through. I hope that you may find strength and comfort in one another and from God. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[Steve128]

Prayers

Bob:

Thank you for sharing and all will be in my prayer's tonight.

sincerely,

Steve

 

[RiverRat2]

More Prayers from Texas!!!!

Bob:

Thank you for sharing and all will be in my prayer's tonight.

sincerely,

Steve

Down south of the horizontal 29


God bless,,,

River

 

[stckciv]

Sorry to hear this! Make sure you always ask How he is doing and if he needs anything! Just be there for him and his family!

Thoughts are with you!

 

[peter399]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and the guy's family.

Peter

 

[Roteiche]

Life ist hard, but only God knows why.

I think of you and that family.

 

[doc874]

loss of a friend and son.

I have only one child, a son. I cannot imagine what it would be like to lose him, he is my life! I will add your friend and his son to my prayers. God bless.

Doc

 

[Billy_Bob]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

I had a close friend take his own life.

I kept thinking.. "If only I had done this or that, maybe he would not have taken his life..."

Then I talked to his other friends and they all felt the same way. They were all thinking "If they had done this or that, then maybe this would not have happened, etc."

As it turns out, this is normal thinking for friends of someone who takes his/her own life.

After a month or so when I could more clearly think about my friend's circumstances, I realized there was nothing I could have done. Nor was there anything anyone else could have done to prevent this.

Some people are just this way.

 

[Kneejerk Bombas]

Having recently lost my daughter, I have a special appreciation of what your friend is going through.
Friends and family are so important right now, be there for him. It may be awkward and uncomfortable, but he needs you. Don't be afraid to talk about his son and the things that need to be taken care of.
Suicide has to be especially difficult. It's important to remember that depression is a physiological illness. People don't just get sad about something, there is something physically wrong.

 

[masiman]

Our thoughts and prayers go out to your families. I hope in time you all can come to smile and remember the joy of his life and that you are able to count this event as part of your friendship.

10 years ago this Labor Day my wifes only sibling, her brother, took his life. Her mom died 9 mos. later. It was mostly cancer but some of her will to live died that day in Sep. The sadness and pain from those losses are still with us. We find some joy in knowing they are smiling down us with my FIL living with us helping to take care our 4 children that they never met.

 

[superfire]

thoughts and prayers

:angel:
God bless you and your friends in your hour of need.
Scotty

 

[newguy18]

I am sorry to hear that and I will pray for the family.I will leave you guys with a poem.
I'm free
don't grieve for me,for now I'm free
I'm following the path god laid for me
I took his hand when I heard him call
I turned my back and left it all
I could not stay another day
to laugh,to love,to work,or play
tasks left undone must stay that way
I found that place at the close of day
If my passing has left a void
then fill it with remembered joy
a friendship shared a laugh a kiss
ah yes these things I to will miss
be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tommorrow
my lifes been full I savored much
good friends good times a loved ones touch
perhaps my time seemed all to brief
don't lengthen it with undue grief
lift up your heart and share with me
God wanted me now he set me free.

 

[deercatcher]

Your sadness and panic shows the poorly understood mystery of how we all are connected, and diminished with each loss. We struggle in the face of so many unanswered questions for some anchor; some thought, some hope that can make our pain bearable. In the end we only have our own will...

Willing to take a little piece of your friend's pain by standing beside him in his greif; and grieving right beside him. To howl with him at God...as long as you are honest and willing to be quiet enough to let him answer that the son chose his own path out of pain and disbelief that he was precious and a blessing to others. He was lead astray in the privacy of his own mind...

All of us. Let's learn something here. To look after each other and make sure those around us know they are cherished and wanted. In time, you can tell your friend that he must forgive his son... and himself and make the choices to find the path that restores hope and happiness. Else that act will destroy him, too.

 

[16:1mix]

I will contribute this hymn for the sorrows of the grieving family and friends. I first heard it in the 70's by, oddly enough, a drunken old man who must have been lonely as well. He would play an electronic organ and sing it.

My prayers for the hurting hearts.
dave
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In Times Like These
Words and Music by Ruth Caye Jones

In times like these you need a Savior
In times like these you need an anchor;
Be very sure, be very sure
Your anchor holds and grips the Solid Rock!

Chorus
This Rock is Jesus, Yes, He's the One;
This Rock is Jesus, the only One!
Be very sure, be very sure
Your anchor holds and grips the Solid Rock!

In times like these you need the Bible,
In times like these O be not idle;
Be very sure, be very sure
Your anchor holds and grips the Solid Rock!

Chorus
This Rock is Jesus, Yes, He's the One;
This Rock is Jesus, the only One!
Be very sure, be very sure
Your anchor holds and grips the Solid Rock!

In times like these I have a Savior,
In times like these I have an anchor;
I'm very sure, I'm very sure
My anchor holds and grips the Solid Rock!

Chorus
This Rock is Jesus, Yes, He's the One;
This Rock is Jesus, the only One!
Be very sure, be very sure
Your anchor holds and grips the Solid Rock!

 

[BIGBORE577]

I'm on my own. I've buried a few beautiful friends. I hope you don't think this is tastless amongst us. I truely wish it was me and not them!

 

[bobbyb13]

Thanks to all of you for your support

I'm still fighting these (What If) feelings, and my faith. We had a memorial service today. I took my old Cessna up and we scattered his ashes over the Mountains, and farms were all of us, our children, and Grandchildren have fished, and hunted for generations. I can say from my heart, Thanks Men for your well wishes, and support.

May God Bless all of you.

Bob