my biggest gripe....
The thing that bothers me the worst about working around tree-workers (who are almost always guys), is how production at a jobsite almost stops when a half decent looking girl from ages 14-50 walks by. I feel ashamed when, during lunch, there is a conversation going, then it stops. Confused, I look to see what's up, and there is just a lady, a poor lady walking her dog. Do they think she wants all these boys (they do not behave like men) staring at her, then commenting, after she is gone, what they would/could do to her? It really pisses me off. I want to walk up to the ladies and apologize on their behalf. It's the same thing driving in trucks, all the heads turn. Why do you look. Do they think she is going to look at them? Wink at them? Ask them for their phone numbers? If not, then is there a reason to look? Are they not content with the girls with whom they live and have children? It's no wonder some girls don't feel comfortable just walking semi-confidently alone around town. It's degrading, not only to the women, but also to the guys that do it. It speaks lowly of them. Guys, if this is you, please give it a break. Sometimes, if I'm standing next to a sidewalk heading up a tree and a lady walks by, I like to look them right in the eyes and say hi...and maybe ask how their day is. I think girls are comforted by someone treating them as a person and not a picture. Give it a shot.
love and respect, especially to Heidi, the female climber I worked with in Chicago
nick