Yeah it’s not easy. There’s a lot more to it, last year she called crying ask me to come get her because his sister was beating on her and he was just standing there not doing anything, he followed later and she didn’t want him around but he wouldn’t leave, had to call the cops. Always something with him, we’ve tried to give them their space and respect them (her) as much as we can but it’s a little much sometimes.Thanks. Doing nothing is easy to say but not easy to do, so I do wish you luck with it. To be honest, I see too many people who are, in so many different ways, on self-destruct missions. Not saying that's the case with your daughter or her not so significant other, but here I seem to be a magnet for 'em. It got to the point a wee while back I decided I had to cut a few people off because it eventually starts to take a toll on me and those around me I care about. I'm not talking family in need but dysfunctional friends. The most recent one is a mom of two young kids who left her class A junkie father of the kids to make a better life but hasn't been able to make it stick. She'll be back down that road shortly and I've had to cut her loose bc it was messing not just with me but family. She'll absolutely screw up, and all I'm prepared to do is step in to save the kids when (not if) the time comes they are seriously neglected. Until then, best outcome is I'm proven to be so very wrong.
I understand what your saying, have to have priority’s and boundaries sometimes. Always much harder when kids are involved.