Here's what I was shown, start with the horizontal dressing first. Set the angle, take very little off at a time. You can hear the wheel getting dressed. Ding, ding ding, then twist the dresser another 1/16 of a turn until you hear zing all one even sound. As for the vertical do the same. If you have a tooth that's perfect place it in the holder and match it up.
You will know when that wheel starts to load up, it's all sound and sight. One thing that I found out is you need the wheel of the grinder eye level. After doing a few chains it will be old hat. Maybe Woodshonkie can give his system.
It the classic case of "it's hard to get good help over the internet"