Yeah, no. My Daughter was targeted by a set of twins in her grade with a sister two grades ahead at the high school. Tolerated getting spit at from the second floor open balconies, and general **** talking for a few months, She was pretty close to a female teacher who had been giving her advice on her dual enrollment (she graduated HS as a junior with her AS degree from the State College across the street, but gave up Softball, weightlifting, and track an field to do so) who had knowlege of what had been going on.
These three siters were well known, and their Momma wasn't doing anything to rein them in. They would come to the beach and hang out all day, and then take advantage of another young girl (who was friends with my daughter) who was latch key by her single Dad, and crash at her place, Shoplifting from the local small busnesses, just being complete delinquents.
At a in-the-country field party on a Friday night, typical of an after Game, one of the twins wanted to escalate it, and it was a mistake. My daughter hit the girl just one time, knocked her out cold. Laid there and pissed herself for all to see on Youtube in minutes......
I KNEW I was going to get called in to the school so without letting them, we showed up first thing Monday. The Principal didn;t make me wait, except to call in the on campus Sheriff, to which the prinicpal wanted to then proceed to rail at my Daughter.( Our schools have had on duty uniformed Sheriffs for over 15 years) I only let it go on for about a minute before interupting, and relaying the event happened off campus and it certainly wasn't a school function- at a farmers pasture at night. HOWEVER, Mrs. (Teacher) needed to be consulted, to bear witness to the targeting of my Daughter for a couple of months since the beginning of the school year. The Principal got the point she wasn;t going to talk to me or my daughter as if there were consequences for HER from the school, and since it was the beginning of the day- she sent her to class and I went to work.
That afternoon a different Sheriff pulls up in the driveway and he wants to talk with Daughter, to which I truthfully replied whe was not home, out surfing, but he and I could talk on the porch, which- was all he was going to get, even if she was home. You could see the gears turning in this guys head. Asks if I knew why he was there and did I have the details of what happened? At that point I hadn't seen the YouTube video, but I said I knew something had happened but no detail. He tells me, she laid her out. The other MOM wanted me to pay for the emergency room bill, seems she hurt her shoulder and had a set of black eyes. I sat in silence while he waited for me to say something. When he got tired of silence he asked if I had intention of paying the bills, and of course I said no. But perhaps he needed to ask the Sherrif who works at the school about what the principal heard from her mentor. He let on the three girls were known entities and he felt bad their Mom was unable and not even trying to keep her daughters on the straight line. But he still wanted to talk to my Daughter. To which I asked him to what benefit? Its not going to change things, She is still in school, and if something happens at school, well, then the school is going to handle it, If you want to talk with my Daughter, you'll have to bring charges, arrest her and in front of an attorney, you might get to ask him some questions, but you aren't going to get anything from her.
He sort of said some things like he was going to follow up with the other Deputy and the school, and he might be back to talk more, maybe talk with my Daughter, as he was walking back to his car. I was so mad- I reminded him, she will be polite, but she WILL refuse to talk to you in any way, and if you persist, such as seeking her out at the school, we will have another sort of conversation with many other people around you. He paused, gear thinking again, but put his car in drive and drove away down the street.
-Passing my daughter walking home from the beach with a board under her arm. He never came back. She continued to get A's, and spent even less time on the HS campus, as she could take more and more College level classes across the street that made showing up at the HS unnecessary. Them poor neglected twin girls didn't finish high school,
No, getting into it with a minor is a problem, but, you could have a discussion with a parent?