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My dad told me straight up, none of us kids get a dime

I’m the executor, he wants it split up for the grandkids
He has step grandkids that he loves like they are blood and they love him back the same.

That’s his wishes and that’s what will happen

I have three grandpas
Pop pop (Dads dad) I knew and loved
Poppy, I didn’t know. He was my moms dad and was a loser and passed away young
Grandpa Newt (my moms moms second husband)

Newt treated my sisters and me like we were blood

Loved us unconditionally! I see our relationship the same way my dad loves his step grandkids

They love him the way I loved Newt

Hell, truth be told… I wouldn’t be the man I am today if it wasn’t for Newt helping to mold me into the man I am today!

We shared a birthday and we were pretty much best friends

He had a biological daughter and two step daughters.

On his deathbed, he pulled me into him and whispered into my ear “you always were my boy” and then passed (tearing up as I type this)

So I have NO problem carrying out my fathers wishes towards his step grandkids

My sister, she doesn’t understand it, feels his blood grandkids should inherit it all, but I know his heart and what is the right thing to do….
 
Newt was a good egg, always enjoyed talking with him and/or doing projects with him.

But he did challenge me a bit. My brother (Matt's Dad) was telling him how well I could drop trees, and we were at his house to drop one. So, he goes about 30' from the tree and said to me "drop it here" and hammered a tent peg halfway into the ground. Well, after the tree fell, he could not find the tent peg ... and I had his respect after that!
 
Yup… Generally inheritance is a gift, not an entitlement. Those thinking they are entitled probably don’t deserve consideration…
Yep, and looking back I definitely had a sense of entitlement that I was blind to until after the fact in my situation. But when you’re fresh and young you think you know more than you really do about life.

What I thought was a nice gesture to help my dad out by taking care of where he grew up was really a brat move. I should’ve let him come to me with the idea if it was to ever happen.

It’s just hard to watch him work himself to the bone trying to do it all, and also delay his retirement for years over it, I try to help when I can but life spares little time when you’re an adult unfortunately.
 
My pops estate was pure hell. 4 years to settle it. Biological mother sued the estate since she was written out of the Will by both my grandparents. (There's a back story, but I don't want to get into that ) which she ended up winning rights to 30% of the estate, mostly due to my uncke running out of money to keep fighting her. Then my biological sister cleared the house of all money, jewelery and valuables when she moved out. I suspect her mother had something to do with it, but we could never prove it. Outside of my uncle and one cousin, I have zero communications with anyone thats related to me by blood since the Pops estate was settled. Nor do I want to have anything to so with those vile woman. There's zero redemption for the things there done to my grandparents while they were living, let alone not honoring their wishes after they had passed.
I don't understand it, and don't wish things like that to happen to anyone. Such greedy selfish people in this world.
 
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!
This is the first time in a lot of years I have off. We're having my family's Thanksgiving at mom and dad's place. I'm very much looking forward to it. Been too long since we were all together. I'm always reminded this time of year how blessed I am to have them.
 
That sounds all to familiar
My mother’s mother, my beloved grandmother is battling cancer. She alternates my house and my sisters (2 weeks at a time). We do our best, but it’s a loosing battle. The last two weeks of her life the vultures swoop in….. her two daughters (mom being one of them). They lawyer up and battle over the inheritance. Absolutely DISGUSTING

My mom is my mom and always will be. She has done things in the past that disappointed me, but nothing like when her mom passed. And then the way she blew through it all…..

Just upsetting
It is upsetting. I'd moved in with my grandmother to take care of her and the house when I graduated from high school. First thing that happened when she passed was my Aunt showed up and threw me out so I moved in with my dad. My grandmother had given me my grandfathers deer rifle years before. A few days later my aunt had the chutzpah to call me and demand it back. No, she is not a hunter. I imagine she wanted to sell it. She didn't get it as by that time I'd had more than enough. She still had the nerve to ask if I was going to keep mowing the lawn. The language got fairly rough. Even my sisters who had nothing to do with my grandmother, never visited etc got involved in the pillaging. They have all passed away and I don't miss them. It's just too bad what some people value.
Luckily my wife and her two brothers are not like that at all. No one argued over anything.
 
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